Parent and Player Expectations

The Tri-City Youth Soccer Association (T-CYSA) has the following expectations for the upcoming year for its clubs.

Please read them together with your child so that everybody understands what is expected for the upcoming season.

You can also download and practice the recommendations in the 2012 Player and Parent Contracts for Conduct.

Training Sessions:

  • Players are to wear appropriate clothes to all training sessions.
  • Shin guards, socks covering shin guards, and cleats should be worn at all practices.
  • All jewelry and watches should be removed prior to practice.
  • Balls must be properly inflated by the beginning of practice.
  • Bring plenty of fluids (water and a sports drink) even when it’s not warm. No carbonated or caffeinated drinks!
  •  Players are strongly encouraged to arrive 10-15 minutes early to ensure they are ready to begin on time.  Players can use the extra time for juggling or ball work, not shooting on the goal!
  • If you arrive late to the training session then, please run to your session!
  • Please pack extra clothes in case of inclement weather.
  • Players must come ready to work hard, listen and have fun.

The only way to beat the best is not to train like the best

But train harder than the best.

Match Day:

  • PLAYERS are responsible for their game bag; they will need all their uniforms, cleats, socks, shin guards and extra clothes.
  • Home games – blue jerseys, black shorts, black socks (Recreational uniforms).
  • Away games – yellow jerseys, black shorts, black socks (Recreational uniforms).
  • Always bring both uniforms to games.
  • Bring plenty of fluids even when it’s not warm (water and/or a sports drink).
  • No carbonated or caffeinated drinks!
  • Players must be courteous to all players, officials, parents and coaches within and outside of the club and/or Association.
  • T-CYSA encourages our players to come ready to play both physically and mentally to every practice and game. Playing time for recreational soccer is designed to be approximately 50%.  It is important to prepare your child to go to practice and/or games.  The way we play and the manner in which we compete is a reflection on the coaches and the T-CYSA. Players understand the importance of how we prepare mentally and physically. They should also be aware of how we are perceived in the public eye and that each of them represents the T-CYSA in a manner that reflects the pride and honor they feel in being a part of our organization. We are proud of our players both as soccer players, and more importantly as people. Our actions should represent who we are and what we stand for.
  • Remember that players aren’t born with world-class talent, only world class potential, and bridging the gap takes years and years of hard work and sweat.


  • Jamboree/Tournaments are for the players to apply their learning of the game against different level opposition and different teams. Please do not replace the importance of this at the expense of social events and sight-seeing. That is not to say that those things can’t take place during tournaments, just please prioritize!

The mark of brilliance is to produce the unexpected. 

The proof of genius is to do it time and time again.

Sideline Behavior – Parents:

Please feel free to ENCOURAGE your son(s)/daughter(s) as much as possible. We want the players to know you are there and that you support them at all times, however here are some general guidelines:

  • Please do not coach from the sidelines. This is a player’s game, a player who should be constantly thinking on the pitch (field). It can often be a distraction to the player and it can be difficult to create any kind of unified thought process with directions coming from both sides of the pitch.  Please encourage the players and applaud exciting plays for both teams!  Please don’t give them specific soccer instructions.
  • Please don’t yell at any referee, referees have bad days as we all do.  Regardless, let them do their jobs. Complaining about calls only makes things worse plus it may cause younger referees to quit refereeing. Also, we teach our players to rise above the things they cannot control such as referees. We ask you to do the same.
  • Please don’t engage in banter with the opposition’s parents. Please try not to get caught up in the heat of battle and behave without class, simply remove yourself from the situation. As you expect us to behave with class and respect, we expect the same from you.
  • Finally, never speak to an opposing player or coach, other than to congratulate them. Let the coaches and players take care of business on the field and you can sit back and enjoy watching your child(ten).
  • The use of noisemakers, cow bells, horns or other such devices is prohibited.

The quality Coach leads his players by understanding they will make mistakes in training and matches, they will also have moments of brilliance, and sometimes both within the same game.

It is the understanding that these tie together to help a player grow that helps a Coach guide the player towards their goals in the sport.

Please remember you’re a parent, fan and representative of the T-CYSA. We ask that in your representation, you do everything you can to uphold the dignity of the players, the soccer association, the clubs, directors, the coaches, the other parents of our organization and most importantly, the dignity of the game of soccer. You are an extension of the T-CYSA and people take what you say in direct correlation with the overall organization, so please be smart in the choices you make and the things you do and say, as people will see it as a representation of the T-CYSA.

As we strive to continue the process of improving the T-CYSA, please keep the lines of communication open. If you are having a problem with something or you have a question about anything please contact your coach, coaching director, club presidents/directors, board members, or office for discussion. Be smart about the timing of discussions, especially if you or the coach may be emotional around the game time, DO NOT APPROACH ANY COACH RIGHT BEFORE, DURING, OR AFTER GAMES!! This may lead to an emotional discussion, and could have been better discussed and resolved under a calmer environment. The directors/coaches are happy to talk to any of you at the appropriate time regardless of how small the concern or question is.   Also, please limit the feedback to your player immediately after the game.  The car ride home and after should be off limits.  Let the player finish assessing their performance, and give the player the opportunity to re-focus at the next event and address with the coach.

Here’s to an enjoyable season/year together. We appreciate your commitment and thank you for taking your time to help make your child a better player/person!